Marc Gilmartin (www.MarcGilmartin.com) has a unique specialization: working with adult men with sexual abuse histories, who may be erotically conflicted. The focus for this show was on porn literacy. We discussed: why call it porn; is it bad or good; is it sex education or entertainment; what does porn teach us? Dr. Diana and Marc talked about all of this and more! Porn may be a little like gun control – we should mainly be concerned with the state of mind of the guy pulling the trigger. If a man is feeling turned on, porn becomes a way of escaping from the relationship rather than just a harmless way to blow off some sexual steam.
Brad Coates, author of “DIVORCE with DECENCY” knows a thing or two about romance. He has been a frequent guest on this show and today we focused on what women want…female needs, desires, and behavior in romantic relationships. His book states, “Women want to hear ‘I love you and I understand.’ A man wants to hear ‘That makes sense,’ indicating a linear thought process.” It is really about your responsiveness to your partner’s emotions – and this responsiveness is what makes a relationship feel fair. Underlying this element is respect. Brad and I spoke about the trend that more single people are staying that way, not getting married. In fact, many more women are not re-marrying after a divorce. For those who do stay married and want help, I often talk about couples putting more play back into their relationship. Brad and I expanded on this idea – and more. Listen, please! (www.divorcewithdecency.com)
Role play and fantasy are two great ways to get closer to your partner. For one, they involve a certain degree of trust because opening up about a sexual fantasy can be scary. And with role play, you really have to be comfortable with another person to pretend to be someone else. Carl Frankel has a chapter in his book “Secrets of the Sex Masters” called “Fantasy, Role Play and Communication.” (www.CarlFrankel.com) Carl’s position is that no are no mind crimes; this led to a discussion about “bad” fantasies – as in unacceptable. Between a couple consent is the rule! This is where communication is so important…You may feel really vulnerable. Dr. Diana and Carl got off topic here and there: it was fun! Improv is great for anyone to do…Don’t negate your partner. Say Yes and. To quote Carl, “Fantasy and role play are wonderful personal growth opportunities if you embrace them in that spirit…Have fun with your fantasies and with the people you play with. Giggling is encouraged…but optional. ” I encourage you to listen to this wise, informative program!
Laura Corn is the author of nine books – all interactive versions of “101 Nights of Grrreat Sex – Secret Sealed Seductions for Loving Couples” – and have sold millions of copies (www.101Nights.com or www.LauraCorn.com ). The interview is fascinating! Hers is a book you don’t read…rather, you do, and her erotic equation is: anticipation and creativity = great sex! Laura also has a seductive APP through Apple. Dr. Diana and her guest discussed what that means. We also talked about the number one sexual complaint of couples; why couples may know how to spice up their relationship and still don’t do it. SEDUCTION is the key to a long term great sex life. Listen to this show! Laura will return soon for a Part 2.
Dr. Dudley Danoff MD, a world renowned urologist returned to the program for the eighth time (www.TheUltimateGuidetoMaleSexualHeath.com). For everything you’ve wanted to know about PREMATURE EJACULATION and ERECTILE DYSFUNCTION please listen to this show! Dr. Danoff and Dr. Diana discussed what’s “normal,” how to get checked, what helps, medications that may work, and the influence of stress/anxiety. The female partner may worry that her man no longer finds her attractive – or may be having an affair. Others become dissatisfied with the frequency or quality of their sex lives; so, sex becomes a stressor. As a result, some couples just avoid the subject – and the act – entirely. Dr. Danoff has been in practice for over 40 years; as a result, he has some excellent advice for PE, ED, as well as for relationships and communication! Listening to this program and getting his book could be life changing for your sexual relationship!
Gail Scott, certified Coach and speaker (www.GailScottinc.com) is a brave and articulate woman! She was sexually wounded – and she demonstrates the need for sexual healing in her personal and professional life. Gail was molested by her father at age 9, continuing to intercourse at age 13, ending at age 16. Her sexual healing journey began in earnest at age 46 using a variety of healing modalities. Gail and Dr. Diana discussed these – including her need to forgive herself, dropping shame, guilt, and confusion around being a sexual woman. This is a person who has gone beyond “incest survivor (victim)” to someone who is more whole and sexually satisfied. Gail talks about previously going through life numbing out all emotions and feelings – while creating meaning in her life by giving to others.
There is more in the details! May 15th will offer Part 2.
Doctors Rob and Janelle Alex, Sexual Energy Experts, returned to the program. They are bestselling authors, speakers and hosts of the top-rated Mission Date Night podcast (www.missiondatenight.com). The topic: Merging Sexuality and Spirituality. Theirs has been a journey, realizing that their sex life could be a sacred (or spiritual) experience – bringing them to transcendent lovemaking. Energy sex is at the heart…even energy orgasms which are not centered in the genitals. They can be waves of pleasure that sweep over the whole body! This kind of experience can be a true vacation from fight-and-flight. Not only is it good for your blood pressure and health, it’s like lying on a Hawaiian beach – with orgasms! Doctors Rob and Janelle have a metaphysical approach, in part. They believe you can open a connection to your spirit guides, the Universe, God/Goddess, your Higher Self by making love to your partner. There is so much more. Please tune in!
Sheri Winston, a celebrated sexuality teacher, award-winning author and medical professional, returned to the program. She and Dr. Diana discussed getting in the mood. A woman’s desire requires engaging her mind and psyche as much as engorging her body parts. Mindfulness helps reconnect the mind with the body’s sensations. When women learn to connect bodily arousal and emotional pleasure, arousal is increased. Using a vibrator, looking at erotica, masturbating, or fantasizing about a great sexual experience can all help with getting in the mood! Sheri asks an important question: How much pleasure can I experience on the journey? Her website is www.IntimateArtsCenter.com where you will discover more about her sexuality trainings – and her book “Succulent Sex Craft.”
Sexual Energy Experts – Doctors Rob and Janelle Alex – are mentoring couples around the world. They are best selling authors, speakers and hosts of the top-rated Mission Date Night podcast (www.missiondatenight.com). Dr. Diana interviewed Drs. Rob and Janelle about Sexy Secrets Behind Business. Your romantic relationship and your sex life have great impact on your business and your career whether it’s a conscious effort or not. When your romantic relationship and your sex life are thriving you’ll have more confidence, be more productive, tap into more creativity and feel happier on the whole. We also discussed Dr. Rob’s dissertation: Orgasmic Laughter: Sex and Humor are Unexpected Portals to the Universe. This couple really knows how to have a playfully passionate and sexy relationship! They are also amazing teachers. Part 2 on March 15th will focus on Merging Sexuality and Spirituality.
Dr. Charlie Glickman (www.MakeSexEasy.com) returned to the program. He is a sex and relationship coach, sex educator, and sexological bodyworker. Dr. Charlie and Caroline, a Tantra teacher, will do a workshop February 19th in Oakland, CA blending Tantra and BDSM. Techniques in both realms will be learned: exploring/playing out fantasies, quieting the mind, stillness, sacred-spot massages for both genders. We discussed how breath work can help men reduce anxiety – helping them to overcome PE and ED (go to Dr. Charlie’s website and blog – “Calming Breath Work”). Prostate pleasure…when is it time for a toy? To cum or not to cum? Tune-in so that you’ll have more fun this Valentine’s Day!