Have you heard? More than just a feeling, LOVE is action. Two men taking action are Dr. Mitchell Tepper (www.DrMitchellTepper.com) and Dr. Mark Schoen (www.SexSmartFilms.com). Their labor of love is a collaborative documentary “Making Love after Making War” – a work still in progress. To help with the effort, please go to www.LoveAfterWar.org to sign up for the newsletter and to consider donating. Our vets are heroes, sometimes returning with catastrophic injuries resulting in PTSD, and intimacy/sexual problems – issues that are often ignored. Sadly, the suicide rate is huge. Our vets need counseling, they need more information. EmotionaI, sexual intimacy, and conceiving a child are often difficulties facing couples after war. We need to team up to help our injured vets rediscover life filled with passion, purpose, and pleasure!
Sexuality and disabilities are not addressed or explored enough. Dr. Mitchell Tepper (www.DrMitchellTepper.com) reports that he “dove head first into the field” because of a diving accident years ago, breaking his neck. Since then he has become an internationally recognized sexuality educator, disability expert, and pioneer in spinal cord research and orgasm. His book “Regain that Feeling: Secrets to Sexual Self-Discovery” reveals that you don’t have to break your neck to be a great lover but you can learn a lot from someone who has. He has identified the importance of trust, safety, and connectedness. Pleasure is not merely a physical sensation, orgasm does not just happen between your legs, intimate connection fuels desire, and love is an action not a feeling. Dr. Mitch does coaching via the phone or skype in all parts of the world – not only for vets but for men and women who were born with or acquired disabilities. His contact information and ways to buy his book are on his website. Furthermore, by going to www.SexSmartFilms.com you can see him in other videos demonstrating tantra, ED, facilitated sex, and using touch via pleasure maps. In today’s program, there is much information – even for those of us who are able-bodied! The March 7th show will explore in more depth “Making Love after Making War.” Please tune-in!
The perfect guests for this Valentine’s Day: Barbara and Michael Jonas, voted by PEOPLE magazine to be one of America’s Most Romantic Couples. They have created many romantic games – the first one and star is An Enchanting Evening. For free downloads go to www.TimeforTwo.com, go to downloadable games, choose one and put it in the shopping cart using the code Wiley (until the end of this month). These games encourage playful touch and supportive communication. You are giving your partner the gift of time…slow down…play the game. One female player said, “It’s porn for women!” Most people need emotional and physical intimacy where they can turn off the world and turn each other on. On this V-Day, always choose love, always choose love! You will be inspired if you listen to this show.
“I was not against marriage. I believed in it, in fact. It was necessary to have one best friend in a hostile world…yet what about all those other longings which after a while, marriage did nothing much to appease?” – “FEAR OF FLYING,” Erica Jong. Once again Brad Coates (www.CoatesandFrey.com) joined the program. He is a man who knows much about marriage and divorce, the author of “DIVORCE with DECENCY” – Fourth Edition. This book has some fascinating statistics – including that we’re in a marriage slump. Fewer Americans are married today, largely because fewer young people are tying the knot. And, from Brad’s book: “There has been more than a 30% drop in the marriage rate since 1970…Thirty-six percent of women surveyed said they would not marry their same husbands again, whereas only 12 percent of married men admitted they had picked the wrong wife…Forty percent of all couples are estimated to be simply coexisting in unhappy marriages.” Women in Brad’s office complain about a lack of communication, and men often have a women in the wings (an affair). Yes, there is the sex part. The Canadian researchers who analyzed data from three different studies found that sex played an even bigger role than money in happiness. Tune in to discover the details!
Dr. Linda De Villers returned. She is the author of “Love Skills – A Fun, Upbeat Guide to Sex-cessful Relationships” and “Simple Sexy Food – 101 Tasty Aphrodisiac Recipes and Sensual Tips to Stir Your Libido and Feed Your Love.
Rebecca Gould author of “The Multi-Orgasmic Diet – Embrace your sexual energy and awaken your senses for a healthier, happier, sexier you” returned to the program (www.THEMULTIOGASMICDIET.COM). Rebecca and Dr. Diana reviewed the question – What is the multi-orgasmic diet? We also sampled more questions, for example: What struggles did Rebecca face that made her want to help other women in this way? One of those women, Nicole from Brooklyn, called in (in the process receiving a free book), asking about foods that might help her sexual relationship. Rebecca and I also discussed this: What would you tell women who have sexual trauma or feel sexually shut down? Another profound discussion: How does one apply Rebecca’s wisdom to relating to others? Many questions and many answers…You’ll want to hear the program!
Dr. Linda De Villers author of “Love Skills – A Fun, Upbeat Guide to Sex-cessful Relationships” returned. This is a wonderful book – providing step-by-step programs for sexual fun, adventure and growth! To get your own copy, go to www.DrLindaDeVillers.com. Dr Diana and Dr. Linda, friends and colleagues since 1991, discussed Dr. Robert Sternberg’s triangular theory of love. Her graduate students appreciate Dr. De Viller’s Tips for Anxious Moments, and so will our listeners! Tune-in to learn more. Part 2 will broadcast January 31st – reflecting the fully revised 6th Edition of “Love Skills”: Gay and Lesbian relationships. We will also talk about her other book “Simple, Sexy Food.”
Dr. Mark Schoen, a sex educator and a filmmaker, returned to the program. His website www.SexSmartFilms.com is Netflix of sex education – and a sex educator’s dream come true! The most viewed videos – of the 430 films on the site – are the Sensate Focus Exercises, the Science of Orgasm, the True Story of How Babies are Made, the Science of Attraction, and TRANS (about transgendered folks dealing with discrimination and rejection). Under the Education category on the site is Disability. Dr. Mark has paired with Dr. Mitch Tepper to make the next documentary: “Making Love after War,” and the pilot can be viewed on SSF. We hear the story of Aaron and Kat, but these kinds of stories are heard over and over – according to the filmmaker. So much more needs to be done to help vets deal with injuries affecting their sexuality. Dr. Schoen and Dr. Tepper are helping this cause by making this film. They both will be on the program as they get closer to the conclusion. Tune in for a preview!
Rebecca Gould author of “The Multi-Orgasmic Diet – Embrace your sexual energy and awaken your senses for a healthier, happier, sexier you”
Dr. Mark Schoen is a filmmaker. His documentary “TRANS” portrays the transgendered dealing with discrimination and rejection.